“Beauty is in the eye of the beholder,” or at least, that’s what they say. I think beauty is in the heart of the receiver. Let me explain.
Last week, a friend and I met at the local coffee shop to discuss the best way to build our church’s image library. She often takes pictures during events and services. She shared her frustration over those who reject, some quite aggressively, having their photo taken.
“Why are people so self-conscious about having their photo taken?” she asked. “We need photos of real people out there. Not all these photo-shopped images.” She wished that people could just accept who they are and not be afraid of the perceptions of other people. “We all have something imperfect about us, right? Our noses, smiles, teeth. You name it.” It was clear she wants imperfections embraced – rather than erased. She wants people to be seen for who they really are and accepted.
Over the next few minutes, the topic changed to a small group she and her husband are hosting in their home. She didn’t share details but told me how amazed she was that many in the group share such deep things about their lives.
I said to her,
“They’re letting you take their spiritual picture. Do you see how special that is?”
She was a little surprised by my statement. She hadn’t realized her group was trusting others in the group to see all their imperfections; hoping they would be accepted.
The real beauty, though, isn’t in the eyes of the beholders or the ears of those hearing the stories. The beauty is in how we respond. It’s in what we choose to do with the information. When someone shares their imperfections, we can embrace or erase. We can accept them and their imperfections. Or, we can erase them from our lives, either physically or emotionally.
So, how about it reader. How do you respond? Can you embrace? Can you show beauty when someone comes just as they are?